FULFILLMENT COMES THROUGH VIBRATION NOT VALIDATION
Article by Rachel Ringler
Fulfillment Comes Through Vibration Not Validation
What is validation? In essence this a term that implies that you’re looking for confirmation that you’re doing the right thing with your life…from someone other than yourself. It’s that sticky spot that we venture into sometimes when we’ve handed over our own scepter to grant others the power to shower approval on us for what we are doing with our lives.
Have you ever watched a competition cooking show?
I used to watch competition cooking shows a lot. It’s a great place to learn how to engage your inner gourmet goddess and create tasty meals just with what you have available to you in the kitchen.
One thing always stood out to me. When they would interview these incredibly talented chefs, to find out why they were there, the answer was almost always to ‘validate’ the life choice they made…to follow their passion. They were all amazing at their craft — successful, doing what they loved…why did they always bulldoze over all of that and go straight to seeking total validation from the judges?
Holding your breath to gain personal empowerment through someone else’s opinion of your work…step back for a second and process that…does that sound right to you? It made me sad and irritated at the same time. Why? Because I realized I had been doing the same thing.
It’s seductive — it tickles your inner ego.
Oh, it gives you a rush, for sure…but not one that lasts.
It’s a high that doesn’t last…because it’s not real.
The only true validation that lasts isn’t actually validation…it’s resonance.
Our souls seek vibrational connection — not external validation.
I believe this is where the mis-step is. This is where allowing our inner muse to guide and inspire us can truly shine. You, my lovely, were born Sovereign…validation need not apply. We are all soulful & sovereign beings just seeking truth. Whatever that truth is for each of us.
So, let me ask you…(heads up…it’s a trick question).
Do you seek validation?
Of course you do! If you said no, then you’re lying to yourself. (We like to do that to ourselves sometimes.) If you said yes (maybe a little too fast for your own comfort level…?), then fear not, my dear, conscious creative soul. We all do it.
Self-doubt is a powerful motivator—not always in a good way. Even now, if I’m completely honest with myself, as I write this piece, I seek it now…from You. (Ahhh yes… the inner work is never done…)
In our work, in our craft, in our art…shit matters.
Seeking validation is just an outward projection of self-doubt.
I’ve learned is that there’s a big difference between seeking outside validation and finding resonance within. It’s definitely a work in process…as we all are. That’s what this mystery is all about. Finding that magic combination that allows us to be vulnerable in our work, our art, our craft, while finding a way to capture the courage that we receive from that lesson to build up our confidence for the next round.
Being of service to others within our realm of creative genius is the only validation we truly need. That’s the high we get when we know we’ve made a difference in others’ lives.
When I create, through my work, my art, my writing, and even through my cooking—I’m looking to create something that matters and touches something deep within those amazing souls that I serve.
I don’t seek to be existentially validated. I seek validation of resonance…with You.
So, let’s shake things up a bit! Let’s change up this toxic inner pattern filled with thoughts of lack. We can choose to transform this warped view of needing surface validation into an opportunity to seek out true resonance…from the inside out. Feel into the deep soulful resonance that connects you to something deep within, my beautiful, conscious & creative soul. It’s right there…ready for you to breathe it in…
