How to Become Completely Turned on by Your Body {and your Life}

HOW TO BECOME COMPLETELY
TURNED ON BY YOUR BODY
{and your life}

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Article by Nikka Karli Salifu
Photo Credit: Sajas Minrah
Magazine: Issue #34

When was the last time you were actually turned ON by every area of your life and were completely in touch with the wisdom of your body and all of her power?

A while?

We spend so much of our time here on this planet trying and forcing. TRYING to be who we think we are supposed to be in order to not rock the boat, to save other’s feelings, to be a part of our tribe. FORCING our lives, our work, our relationships, our health.

But what if there was a different way?

One where you actually could love your body, speak your truth unapologetically, and be deliciously fulfilled on every level?

Well, Gorgeous, you’re in the right place because I’m about to share some fabulous tips to set you onto your path of smokin’ hotness.

1 :: Give Up The Idea That You Need To Look Like Someone Else In Order To Be Beautiful
Who cares what that one chick in the magazine looks like or how perfect that fitness competitor’s ass is while she’s maxing out in the squat rack?... Oh wait. You do. And that’s why you’ve been beating yourself up about how you’re not ready to follow your purpose, meet your soulmate, speak on sold out stages, start your tv show... Because you still think you need to be something other than you are to live your dreams. Hint: You are already more than enough and it’s time to own your freakin brilliance.

2 :: Release Your Hold On Your Old Habits And Limiting Beliefs Surrounding Soul Care
What do you think is going to happen if you start taking exquisite care of yourself?

…Unwanted attention?
…You’ll be spending all your money at lulu?
…The chicks at the yoga studio are horrid creatures who will judge you and call you names?
…Taking a bath is just a waste of precious time that you could/should be spending making money?

Whatever B.S. you’re telling yourself about why you shouldn’t go to yoga, start running again, meditate, or shake your gorgeous groove thang is all just resistance standing between you and your most lusciously confident self.

So stop worrying about why you shouldn’t nourish yourself and start making it happen.

3 :: Cultivate A Mindset Of Commitment And Discipline
We’re so used to living below our potential. We spend a bunch of time and energy thinking about the things we DON’T want in our lives and not nearly enough on the things we actually desire.

Begin taking a deep look at the things you are currently committed to… Your mediocrity. Your people pleasing. Your TV. Your addiction to struggle.

And now think about the things you need to be spending your time and energy focusing on if you want to become the smoking hot, turned on, sensual goddess you know you want to be.
And then- here’s the kicker- start becoming that woman. Act as if you already have what you desire. Think the way she would think. Cultivate the daily discipline towards your dreams and freedom. Show up as HER and commit to her way of living.

4 :: Tap Into Your Gratitude And Love Multiple Times A Day
If you are always waiting for something to happen before you are happy, before you love more, and before you appreciate your life, you will never be satisfied. Never be turned on. Never be fulfilled.

And, in turn, you will not become the paradigm-shifting leader you were placed on this planet to be. Show gratitude for your journey, blessings, and miracles you’re manifesting every single day.

5 :: Give Yourself Permission To Receive Pleasure
Pleasure. In all of her glorious forms. Orgasms. Dancing. Kissing. Yoga. Laughing. Watching the sunrise. Sitting under the moonlight. Release the automatic “no” that seems to escape your lips when someone offers you a joyous and delicious experience. Feel into it. Let it sit with your body. And then say “yes” to everything and everyone who speaks to your soul. Without shame or guilt or fear.

6 :: Trust In Your Desires
If you always second-guess what you want, who you are, and whether or not you are provided for by the Universe… you will always remain on the other side of your greatest passion in this life.

You can have what you desire, but only if you believe. Trust in who you are and trust that you are enough to have what you are asking for. When we lack trust in ourselves, we also lack trust in our partners, our creativity, and our own success. Give yourself the space to heal the wounds that are holding you back from accepting your desires and pleasure.

So, Lover, if you want to be turned on, you must turn yourself on. With the way you show up in the world. In the way you carry yourself in your conversations and relationships. With every thought you allow in that incredible mind of yours.

Only one go round in this life.

Why spend one more day as anything less than the beautiful, sexy, kickass woman you were born to be?

ABOUT ANGEL

Angel Quintana

Angel Quintana is the founder of Holistic Fashionista, an alchemical herbalist and mystery school teacher based in Saint Petersburg, Florida. She's incredibly passionate about the alchemical process known as The Great Work and helping others evolve "the archetypes" found in their inner world, so they can confidently answer the questions: WHO AM I and WHY AM I HERE. Learn more about Angel's work at www.theoccultchateau.com


DISCLAIMER

The information on this website is presented for educational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for the diagnosis, treatment, or advice of a qualified, licensed medical professional. The facts presented are offered as information only, not medical advice, and in no way should anyone infer that we are practicing medicine. Seek the advice of a medical professional for proper application of this material to any specific situation.

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Isn’t it Time You Got Your SHIFT Together?

Isn’t it Time You Got Your SHIFT Together?

Isn’t it Time You Got Your SHIFT Together?

ISN'T IT TIME YOU GOT YOUR SHIFT TOGETHER?

Article by Nikka Karli Salifu
Photo Credit: Dasha & Mari
Magazine: Issue #31

You know that thing you say you want? That thing that you’ve been talking about with whomever would listen for the past 3 months. Or 3 years. Or 3 decades.

That thing.

When are you actually going to do what needs to be done to make it happen? When are you going to allow yourself to step into who you need to become in order to stand in the power of your “thing”? When are you finally going to do the work?

Because the only way that you will ever achieve the thing that has been searing holes into your soul is if you get out of your own way and commit.

Transformation doesn’t come from dipping in your toes. It doesn’t happen when you limit your message and your truth because you’re afraid of what others “might” say about you.

Real shift happens when you decide you are no longer available for anything less than your worth.

So, what are you deciding in this moment? With your thoughts? Your words? Your actions?

What does the way you are choosing to show up in the world say to your dreams? …Does it say that you believe in them? …Or does it say that you aren’t really sure that you can have what you desire? You might want to start asking yourself what your actions have been saying about you behind your back.

Are you allowing yourself to live in a place of fear and doubt, with your dreams coming in a weak second to your self-imposed limitations?

You say you want real shift to happen in your life, your calling, your art. Well, it’s time to give up the way you think you are “supposed” to be doing this thing called life. And, instead, it’s time to give yourself permission to truly live. To finally surrender and just be. Be your dreams. Be your art. Be your genius. Be the divine light of truth that runs through your veins.

Because there is no magic pill to swallow that will transport you to the land of your desires. You’ve got to be willing to do whatever it takes to get yourself there. And you’ve got to do it every day. There is no letting up when it comes to your dreams.

And no, that doesn’t mean all you do is work day and night without pause. Rather, that you take intentional steps every single day that will move you closer to living the life your soul is so desperately seeking.

You must always remember that with each breath, you are given a choice. With each space between your breaths, you are given a choice.

To believe. Or to give up.

So. Will you choose your dreams today? Will you choose the life you want over the life you have been told you should settle for? Will you choose to show up, day in and day out, and commit?

This breath. This moment. This dream.

Here’s to your Untaming.

ABOUT ANGEL

Angel Quintana

Angel Quintana is the founder of Holistic Fashionista, an alchemical herbalist and mystery school teacher based in Saint Petersburg, Florida. She's incredibly passionate about the alchemical process known as The Great Work and helping others evolve "the archetypes" found in their inner world, so they can confidently answer the questions: WHO AM I and WHY AM I HERE. Learn more about Angel's work at www.theoccultchateau.com


DISCLAIMER

The information on this website is presented for educational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for the diagnosis, treatment, or advice of a qualified, licensed medical professional. The facts presented are offered as information only, not medical advice, and in no way should anyone infer that we are practicing medicine. Seek the advice of a medical professional for proper application of this material to any specific situation.

Friends with the Monster: The Time Has Come for You to Live Your Art

FRIENDS WITH THE MONSTER:
THE TIME HAS COME FOR YOU TO LIVE YOUR ART

Friends With The Monster

Friends With The Monster

Article By Nikka Karli
Photo Credit: Dasha & Mari
Magazine: Issue #30

There you are. Sitting alone in your room. The scariest monster you’ve ever encountered is under your bed, gnashing its hideous teeth and sliding its creepy alien fingers along your bare skin.

But this monster- the one who has you plugging your ears and squeezing your eyes shut so tightly you’re seeing stars- is not, in reality, a monster at all.

This monster is your Ultimate Dream.

And you are so scared by the very IDEA of said dream that you are, at present, curled up into the fetal position sucking your thumb and crying for your mommy. Just wishing someone would come and take your Ultimate Dream away so you don’t have to think about it for more bed-wetting second.

Except- EXCEPT- you know in your heart of hearts that if you actually lost this dream that you might completely fade away from all space and time.

And you know that no matter how scary this dream is, it is your reason for being on this planet, at this time, in this place.

For without this dream your soul would be incomplete. And your life would become a vast wasteland of mediocrity. And carpooling minivans. And boring lingerie that doesn’t even turn YOU on. And ugly Christmas sweater parties where you get to feign laughter at your husband’s boss’s ridiculously inappropriate jokes. And one craptastic vacation every other year. Oh. And, perhaps worst of all, watching other people build their dreams while you sit back and try to remember a time when you yourself had more than just a fleeting memory of your own.

And that version of life? Well, I don’t know about you, but that hot mess of a reality is simply unacceptable to me.

So, what’s a rebel-thought leader-dreamer-creator-world changer to do?
Roll over, play dead, and let the monster have its way with you?
Well. Yes, actually. That’s EXACTLY what you should do.

Because it is only by surrendering completely to your Ultimate Dream that you will ever give it permission to become your reality. It is only when we give ourselves over to the great, big, scary void of creativity that we are capable of not only making friends with the monster, but BECOMING the monster.

What does it mean to become the monster {AKA your Ultimate Dream}?

It means that your life is no longer an unsatisfying accumulation of the mundane tasks and self-limiting comfort zones with which we occupy ourselves to distract us from the fact that we are not living our art.

It means that your name will be forever written along the magical ley lines of the Soul of the Universe.

It means that you- yes you- will have faced your demons, nourished them with love and gratitude, and chosen to embrace them in spite of your fears. You will have not only accepted your monster, you will have become the walking, talking, breathing embodiment of your divinity. For our creativity- which is the active invocation of our Ultimate Dream- is, in all essence, divine.

It is the vast expanse of the ancient ones that runs through our blood.
It is our strength and our weakness. Our light and our dark. Our truth and our faults.
It is our greatness.

We must never forget that when we fight our monster, we are fighting ourselves. And nothing great has ever come from an artist fighting her art. From a leader fighting the fact that they are meant to lead. Or from a creator refusing to create.

So, this is your invitation to surrender, Lover. To give yourself over to your own monster. To allow your life to become the sacred magic that is your Ultimate Dream.

This is your wake up call. Your monster is waiting.

ABOUT ANGEL

Angel Quintana

Angel Quintana is the founder of Holistic Fashionista, an alchemical herbalist and mystery school teacher based in Saint Petersburg, Florida. She's incredibly passionate about the alchemical process known as The Great Work and helping others evolve "the archetypes" found in their inner world, so they can confidently answer the questions: WHO AM I and WHY AM I HERE. Learn more about Angel's work at www.theoccultchateau.com


DISCLAIMER

The information on this website is presented for educational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for the diagnosis, treatment, or advice of a qualified, licensed medical professional. The facts presented are offered as information only, not medical advice, and in no way should anyone infer that we are practicing medicine. Seek the advice of a medical professional for proper application of this material to any specific situation.

The 5 Hidden Things that Separate Dreamers from Doers

THE 5 HIDDEN THINGS THAT
SEPARATE DREAMERS FROM DOERS 

5 Hidden Things that Separate Dreamers from Doers

5 Hidden Things that Separate Dreamers from Doers

Article by Nikka Karli Salifu
Photo Credit: Hailley Howard
Magazine: Issue #29

Have you ever defined yourself as a dreamer? Maybe you love using the hashtag #dreamchaser in conjunction with things like #bosslady and #goaldigger? Perhaps you’ve secretly started to wonder why you can’t seem to create the success in your business and life that you oh-so-desperately desire.
I get it. Really, I do. Up until recently, I was living in the same dreamland. I was living the life of a Dreamer rather than a Doer. And you might be, too.

Want to know if you need to overhaul your mindset (and your hashtag game)? Read on for 5 shifts that just might change your life…
 

1 :: Dreamers spend their time dreaming. Doers spend their time doing.
Dreaming is awesome, but if you ever want to turn your dreams into reality you’re going to need to start taking action. Keeping your head in the clouds means your dreams have no roots, no foundation… Which means no progress.


Action begets more action. And action is what it takes to go from leaving a legacy of “she was such a dreamer” to “she helped change the world”. Which legacy do you want to be known for? And what are you willing to do about it? (Like, right now.)

2 :: Dreamers are always “waiting”. Doers are always moving.
If you spend your life in a holding pattern, you will never get anywhere. Your dreams will turn to dust and wither away within your soul as unrealized flights of fancy.

There is no “great moment” that needs to happen before you can act. Neither is there some magical being of light coming to tell you to that now is the time to move forward.

Hire coaches, work with healers, do your spiritual work. But, don’t wait for someone else to make your dreams happen. They are YOUR DREAMS and you alone can create the momentum necessary to bring them to fruition.

3 :: Dreamers take 1 step forward and 3 steps backward. Doers consistently move forward.
Dreamers like to dip their toes in the water. They like to see if something might work out. They like to “try”.

Doers get things done. Doers make a decision and commit to its outcome (whether or not it is the outcome they expected). The difference here is consistency. When you “try” something out and then stop (guilty, party of 1 over here!), you are actually taking your progress and tearing it to shreds. Any traction you’ve gained? You lose it (and then some) when you give up and start backpedaling into your doubts and fear of success.  

Doers go all in. What about you? Ask yourself when you last decided on a course of action in your life and business and saw it all the way through. Go ahead. We’ll wait… NOT!!!! Because Doers don’t waste their time waiting! (You might need to go back and re-read #2 again if you really thought we were going to wait. Just sayin’…)

4 :: Dreamers think they need perfection. Doers live in the space of imperfect action.
Oh, the sticky mire of perfectionism. Ever been there? This is one of the most crippling beliefs for anyone who has big dreams. The need to have everything be perfect before taking action is just another tricky form of Resistance (need a review on Resistance? Head over here and soak up some wicked knowledge).

If you always need things to be perfect before you act, you will be waiting forever.
Can your dreams wait forever? Didn’t think so.

5 :: Dreamers allow themselves to be sidelined by failure. Doers understand that failure is a necessary for success.
Ah… Failure. It has taken out many a would-be visionary and relegated them to annals of mediocrity time and time again.

If you want to be different- if you ever want to become extraordinary- you must accept failure. Embrace failure. Seek out failure. Because failure means you are taking action. It means you are being consistent and going all in on your dreams. It means that you are truly alive.

You must not stay hidden in the shadows of life for fear of what will happen when you step into the light. For fear of someone seeing you for who you truly are.
Remember, failure does not mean you have failed forever. Unless you succumb to that instance of failure. Unless you refuse to get back up again.

The finest visionaries, minds, and artists have seen more failure than most people could ever imagine. And, they asked for it. They craved it. Because they knew it meant that they were putting themselves out there, in all their glory and imperfection. They knew that massive amounts of failure are required to reach greatness. And they wanted to be great more than they feared temporary failures.

So, you must ask yourself which you fear most. Failure? Or dying with your dreams unrealized inside of you? If you answered the latter, it is time for you to become something you may have never been before. Something scary. Vulnerable. Awe-inspiring.

It is time, Love, for you to become a Doer.

ABOUT ANGEL

Angel Quintana

Angel Quintana is the founder of Holistic Fashionista, an alchemical herbalist and mystery school teacher based in Saint Petersburg, Florida. She's incredibly passionate about the alchemical process known as The Great Work and helping others evolve "the archetypes" found in their inner world, so they can confidently answer the questions: WHO AM I and WHY AM I HERE. Learn more about Angel's work at www.theoccultchateau.com


DISCLAIMER

The information on this website is presented for educational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for the diagnosis, treatment, or advice of a qualified, licensed medical professional. The facts presented are offered as information only, not medical advice, and in no way should anyone infer that we are practicing medicine. Seek the advice of a medical professional for proper application of this material to any specific situation.

3 Sneaky Habits that are Keeping You from Becoming Successful

Sneaky Habits that are Keeping You from Becoming Successful

Sneaky Habits that are Keeping You from Becoming Successful

3 SNEAKY HABITS THAT ARE KEEPING YOU FROM BECOMING SUCCESSFUL

Article by Nikka Karli
Photo Credit: Dasha & Mari
Magazine: Issue #29

Have you ever wondered why it seems to be so easy for some people to achieve unparalleled levels of love, abundance, and success?

And yet…

It all seems to be completely intangible for you, no matter how hard you try to chase down your dreams. And, by the way, those dreams? They actually seem to be running away from you. As if the harder you try, the further away they get.

You’re actually starting to take it personally.

As in, maybe there’s something wrong with you. Something that makes success nothing more than a whimsical fancy meant for the throngs of other people on this planet, but not you. Never you.

Well, first things first, you are not alone. Even more good news? I’m here to help you step into the greatness that has always seemed so utterly elusive. Until now. (Stick with me, kid. I think you’re going to like this.)

Here are 3 unconscious habits that might be holding you back from creating the life you truly want (and what you might want to do instead):

1 :: You truly believe that you and Shonda Rhimes are destined to be besties (AKA: You spend more time watching other people be gladiators than actually becoming one yourself)-

If you want to actually become a Creator, a Doer, and not just a Dreamer, you have to focus. And focus means less time numbing yourself out to your current reality.  Which, in turn, means you need to give up your Olivia addiction.  Blasphemy, I know.  But hear me out.

Successful people (millionaires, elite athletes, world changers) spend their time creating things that help solve other people’s problems.  They do not spend all of their time watching fake problems on (albeit highly entertaining) television shows.

Does this mean you have to cancel your subscription to Netflix right this moment? Not at all. But it does mean that if you want to achieve your goals, it is imperative that you begin paying close attention to how you’re choosing to spend your time and energy.  

Ask yourself this: Are you creating your life or are you watching other people act out theirs?

2 :: The last thing you read for self-development was the Highlights for Children magazine at your kid’s dentist appointment (AKA: You have an Amazon book queue 10 miles long that’s sucking up dust faster than a top-of-the-line Dyson)-

Have you ever said to a friend that you love to read but you simply don’t have the time?  Well, Gorgeous, I have news for you.  Successful people make the time.

Expanding your beliefs and thought patterns will absolutely transform the way you show up in your life. And this change requires knowledge, reflection, and implementation.  If you want to serve- to create a global platform for change- it begins with the information and concepts that you feed your mind.

If you have time to get on Facebook, you have time to pick up a book (or a Kindle) and start nourishing the creative space that will allow you to bring your dreams to fruition.

3 :: Your goals see about as much action as a 15-year-old boy in any locker room around the world lying to his friends about how he hooked up with that gorgeous, slightly older Canadian chick he met on his family’s summer vacation (AKA: You’re all talk, heavy breathing, fumbling zippers… and no follow-through)-

You want to make a resounding impact in our world? You want amazing connection and intimacy in all of your relationships? You want the freedom to live life on your own terms? Well, Darlin, it begins with your ability to not only come up with amazing ideas but to actually do something about them.

This is you putting your dreams on the line. This is you saying no to your fears and yes to your results. This- THIS- is how you succeed. In business. In love. In health. In prosperity. In life.

You absolutely must learn how to follow through on the things that you say you want. No more starting and stopping. No more listening to other people’s opinions of how you should live your life. No more succumbing to resistance. Your commitment cannot be negotiable. The life of your dreams depends on it.

Well, Love, that’s it in a paradigm-shifting, momentum-building, world-igniting nutshell. 3 simple things that can change your future. So. What will you decide? To watch or live? To give in or commit?

I’m pretty sure I know the answer. Here’s to becoming your own gladiator.


It’s a Sign is a compilation of self-improvement articles written by entrepreneurs seeking to bring holistic solutions to everyday problems. Read more articles from this feature.


Nikka Karli, The Embodiment Expert (Founder of Turned On Life™) is a writer, yoga teacher, and life and business coach. She consults with Creative Visionaries who want to create a thriving, location-independent business, guiding them to embody the person they need to become in order to create the life they desire.

Download her free guide on adding pleasure to your business and get on the notification list for her highly-anticipated "Becoming Extraordinary" program!

ABOUT ANGEL

Angel Quintana

Angel Quintana is the founder of Holistic Fashionista, an alchemical herbalist and mystery school teacher based in Saint Petersburg, Florida. She's incredibly passionate about the alchemical process known as The Great Work and helping others evolve "the archetypes" found in their inner world, so they can confidently answer the questions: WHO AM I and WHY AM I HERE. Learn more about Angel's work at www.theoccultchateau.com


DISCLAIMER

The information on this website is presented for educational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for the diagnosis, treatment, or advice of a qualified, licensed medical professional. The facts presented are offered as information only, not medical advice, and in no way should anyone infer that we are practicing medicine. Seek the advice of a medical professional for proper application of this material to any specific situation.

Decision Making: If You’re Waiting for a Sign… You Already Missed It

If You’re Waiting for a Sign… You Already Missed It

If You’re Waiting for a Sign… You Already Missed It

DECISION MAKING: IF YOU'RE WAITING FOR A SIGN... YOU ALREADY MISSED IT

Article by Nikka Karli Salifu
Photo Credit: Dasha & Mari
Magazine: Issue #28

Have you ever been waiting patiently for something miraculous to occur in your life, some sign that THIS was the correct decision? And, while waiting for this sign, you rationalized that you should take absolutely no other action until the sign came?

But then, at some point, you woke up and realized that the opportunity of a lifetime had in fact just passed you by?

That’s the problem with living your life in a holding pattern. You end up constantly waiting for someTHING or someONE to make your dreams come true, rather than actually making them happen yourself.

I have often found myself in this predicament with business decisions. Perhaps you can relate to these little gems of entrepreneurial wisdom:

-Which list-building strategy do I implement first? (Ummm, I’ll just wait for a sign and do nothing until then, meanwhile my list will stay as dry as the Salt Flats… Yes, that seems to be a good strategy.)

-Should I launch Program A or Program B this month? Errrr… Or Program C?  (Hmmm… Looks like another great opportunity to sit back and wait for a sign.  Yeah.  That should make these programs launch themselves in the most efficient and lucrative order. Yup.  I like it.)

Or perhaps this one will tickle your sign-awaiting fancy:

-How do I attract a tribe of raving fans and soulmate clients? (Oh.  Wait.  They don’t just come to ME?  Crap.  Well, I’m pretty sure I’ll receive a mystical sign aaaaaaany day now as to how to bring all my peeps to the yard.  Until then, I’ll just sit back and ruminate on the difficulties of growing an online business.)

Are you starting to see the nonsense in spending all of your time WAITING instead of DOING?

  • Yes, I believe in praying and seeking divine assistance in making your choices.
  • Yes, I know that sometimes the answer is unclear, which can be pretty scary.
  • Yes, I understand that action takes guts, and a lot of people are running pretty short on guts these days.

And yet…No.

  • No, it is not okay for you to allow your dreams and goals to wither and die inside of you because you are afraid.
  • No, it is not okay for you to wait even one more day for some magical sign before you start taking action in your life.
  • No, it is not okay for you to be mediocre for even one more moment, when you are so clearly meant to lead.
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  • This is the time to listen to your own inner wisdom, rather than waiting for external validation of your gifts.
  • This is your chance to not only come up with genius ideas, but to actually implement them.
  • This is your opportunity to be seen.
  • To be heard.
  • To make a resounding difference in others’ lives.

That burning desire to change the world? It isn’t given to just anyone. But, Gorgeous, it WAS given to you. It is now up to you to become the leader in your own life, your business, and your relationships. It is now up to you to choose the path unknown (or to stay safely tucked away in your comfort zone).

Never forget, you are here to lead. Innate powers and visions are sacred. However, if left unused and unclaimed, they will fade. Crumbling to ash from misuse and neglect. But, you. You wouldn’t want that. Would you? You wouldn’t let that happen to your dreams. Would you?

So, if they truly are your dreams, now is the time to rise up and claim them. What are you waiting for?...  A sign?

ABOUT ANGEL

Angel Quintana

Angel Quintana is the founder of Holistic Fashionista, an alchemical herbalist and mystery school teacher based in Saint Petersburg, Florida. She's incredibly passionate about the alchemical process known as The Great Work and helping others evolve "the archetypes" found in their inner world, so they can confidently answer the questions: WHO AM I and WHY AM I HERE. Learn more about Angel's work at www.theoccultchateau.com


DISCLAIMER

The information on this website is presented for educational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for the diagnosis, treatment, or advice of a qualified, licensed medical professional. The facts presented are offered as information only, not medical advice, and in no way should anyone infer that we are practicing medicine. Seek the advice of a medical professional for proper application of this material to any specific situation.

What to Do When it All Falls Apart

What to Do When it All Falls Apart

What to Do When it All Falls Apart

WHAT TO DO WHEN IT ALL FALLS APART

Article by Nikka Karli Salifu
Photo Credit: Nancy Schoenmakers
Magazine: Issue #27

Have you ever been out, hanging with your peeps, shaking your groove thang at the baddest club in town? Looking smokin’ HOT, sipping your delish, rarely-been-seen-before, Carrie-worthy, beyond-fantabulous cocktail? Your skinny jeans are putting in WORK, calling all the gorgeous and consciously-evolved boys to the yard? You know, the total life of the party?

Only to realize that, despite all your best efforts and pretty freakin’ exquisite {ahem} bottom line, you aren’t actually enjoying yourself?  Like, at all? As in, you are actually completely and miserably unfulfilled, unsatisfied, and (if you’re being honest with yourself) unsure of how in the world you’re going to FIX the situation? Ugh.

Or how about this. There you are, cruising along to your favorite 80’s movie soundtrack. Tunes are hot. You’re singing at the top of your lungs (maybe even somewhat in-tune). Hair looks fly. Outfit is on point. And then out of nowhere, your phone dies (taking your beloved tuneage with it). Your voice starts cracking like a Vegas sidewalk in the dead of summer. Your hair is frizzing like nobody’s business (and you now look like YOU belong in an 80’s hair band). Oh. And you spill your venti soy chai (extra hot, no water, no foam) all over your sweet new maxi.

Ever have one of those days? Ever have one of those years?

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Everything is good. I mean, SO GOOD. And you’re happy. Like willing-to-overnight-babysit-your-bratty-whiny-spoiled-niece kind of happy.

But then the bottom falls out. And it falls so far that you think it’s probably traveled all the way to the core of the earth by now. As in, there’s no possible hope of ever seeing that bad boy again.

What’s an up-and-coming visionary to do? Throw in the proverbial towel and give up on your dreams of making an impact and building a global platform of change? Or slap some gel in that wayward hair of yours (big hair is kinda in right now anyways), grab your spare leggings and crop combo from the back seat (because a girl’s always gotta have a backup), and decide that you’re just going to have to bootstrap your life together?

The latter of the two above options? Those are the kind of people who make it. They are the ones who see their dreams turn into reality. It is these driven and ambitious souls who- despite the world seeming to fall apart around them- are motivated to actually see their umpteen years of labor come to fruition.

So, which one are you? The one who crumbles in the face of resistance? Or are you the one who rises above? The one who knows that YOU choose the course of your life and that only you get to determine your own destiny?

Yes, of course there will be hard times. Some of them will be so ridiculously hard that you may wonder if you will ever get to see the light of day again. And some of them will threaten to break you into a million pieces of shattered hope and obliterated dreams.

But, if you make the decision that- no matter what- your dreams are not optional, you will succeed. You WILL actualize your vision. You WILL overcome the battle that rages.

“But how?” you ask…

  • By unleashing the power of your inner genius, your intuition, your fullest potential.
  • By making a pact with your soul that you will never again back down in the face of adversity when it comes to your dreams.
  • By giving yourself permission to free your power, that sacred energy of truth and wisdom that you have kept dormant for way too long.
  • By not caring what other people think of you and your journey.  Like, EVER.
  • By- regardless of distraction, resistance, or fear- fully committing to your brilliance and going ALL IN on what you say you want.
  • By being of service.
  • By loving yourself more and owning EXACTLY who you are.

And, once you make the decision to commit, you must then take action. Daily, consistent, MASSIVE action in the direction of your goals.

You must keep your eyes focused on the horizon of your vision. You do not let your focus waver. Not for one second. (And then, when it inevitably wavers, you brush that shizz off and get right back to chasing down your dreams.) You must endeavor to always be both persistent AND consistent.

If your passion is there, your actions will follow.

So, when in doubt, follow your passion. Take balls-to-the-wall action day in and day out. Let no one and no thing deter you from your purpose. You must no longer rely on anyone else to make your dreams come true. It’s all up to you, Gorgeous.

And the funny thing about it? It always has been. Here’s to your Untaming.

ABOUT ANGEL

Angel Quintana

Angel Quintana is the founder of Holistic Fashionista, an alchemical herbalist and mystery school teacher based in Saint Petersburg, Florida. She's incredibly passionate about the alchemical process known as The Great Work and helping others evolve "the archetypes" found in their inner world, so they can confidently answer the questions: WHO AM I and WHY AM I HERE. Learn more about Angel's work at www.theoccultchateau.com


DISCLAIMER

The information on this website is presented for educational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for the diagnosis, treatment, or advice of a qualified, licensed medical professional. The facts presented are offered as information only, not medical advice, and in no way should anyone infer that we are practicing medicine. Seek the advice of a medical professional for proper application of this material to any specific situation.

F*ck Your Resistance with Just 3 Actions

F*CK YOUR RESISTANCE WITH JUST 3 ACTIONS

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Article by Nikka Karli Salifu
Photo Credit: Dasha & Mari
Magazine: Issue #26

Have you ever felt like your Big Vision was in quicksand? As if- no matter what you do- you keep ending up in the same place in your life and business? (And it’s most definitely NOT the place you want to be.)

Sound familiar? You’re in the right place. Because you’re about to get a crash course in how to overcome the “resistance” that’s been pulling the wool over your eyes (and has most likely been derailing the entire course of your life).

Oh. I should probably note that this ain’t your mama’s nice, sweet-as-pie advice. So, if you’re easily offended or someone who is not ready to commit to their brilliance, you should probably stop reading right about now. If, however, you are ready to take balls-to-the-wall action and forever change the way you show up in the world, I invite you to read on and learn a little about the monster you’re up against.

1 :: Resistance is NOT futile. Nope. It’s a sneaky little bastard who will upend your dreams and toss you aside as if you were nothing. It will laugh at your grand plans and kick dust on the withering carcass of your creativity. Resistance is not some weak, doddering punk as we’ve been taught to believe. It will smack you down without a second thought and leave you nothing but a quivering ball of insecurity and self-doubt. It shows up as a call from a friend who just happens to be in dire straits JUST as you are about to begin working on that chapter in your forthcoming {when-in-the-name-of-God-is-this-going-to-be-finished} book. YOUR ACTION: Dig your head out of the sand, Darlin! Yes, resistance is all around you and the faster you accept its existence, the faster you will overcome it. Stay vigilant. When it shows up (and it will) be ready. Begin to recognize resistance for what it is and be ready to say NO to it, however it appears.

2 :: Resistance is debilitating. That quicksand we talked about? Yeah. That’s resistance. It’s not fun and it’s not pretty. You might be feeling like your dreams are too big, that you’re not ready, that everyone except you has got it together… Let’s stop right there and call B.S. Why? Because that’s resistance. Not your truth. YOUR ACTION: Move forward. Take imperfectly perfect action in the direction of your vision. Fail and love it. Succeed and love it. And then do it all over again. Resistance cannot stick to a moving object. So keep it moving, Beautiful.

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3 :: Resistance has got NOTHING on you. You are worth so much more than resistance will ever be. You have been placed on this earth with a mission. And that mission kicks resistance’s ass any day of the week. YOUR ACTION: Own your worth. Chase your dreams with the innate and unshakeable knowledge that your mission was not given to just anyone. It was given to you. Only YOU can heal the world in the way you were meant to heal. So go be you. (And if resistance has anything to say about, kick it where it hurts and keep on keepin’ on.)

Now that you’re armed with your resistance-smashing tools, I want you to ask yourself a question. And this might be the most important question of your life to date (big, bold statement, I know… but stick with me).

OK…  Are you ready?  Here goes:

How much longer are you willing to allow resistance to dictate the direction of your life. Seriously… How. Much. Longer???

Because now that you’re aware of it, it is 100% up to YOU to decide to whether or not to do something about it. It has become a choice. Your choice.

To stay hidden in the shadows of your resistance and allow it to keep you stuck in the throes of mediocrity or- and here’s the choice I’d go with if I were you- to smash through your resistance. To obliterate it and crush it into complete and utter oblivion.

So, what will you choose? Resistance and fear? Or unapologetically living out your amazing God-given mission? Well. You know what they say. The choice? She is yours, Lovers.

Here’s to choosing our dreams.

ABOUT ANGEL

Angel Quintana

Angel Quintana is the founder of Holistic Fashionista, an alchemical herbalist and mystery school teacher based in Saint Petersburg, Florida. She's incredibly passionate about the alchemical process known as The Great Work and helping others evolve "the archetypes" found in their inner world, so they can confidently answer the questions: WHO AM I and WHY AM I HERE. Learn more about Angel's work at www.theoccultchateau.com


DISCLAIMER

The information on this website is presented for educational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for the diagnosis, treatment, or advice of a qualified, licensed medical professional. The facts presented are offered as information only, not medical advice, and in no way should anyone infer that we are practicing medicine. Seek the advice of a medical professional for proper application of this material to any specific situation.