Extimacy™ Bounce Backs Are Dangerous: Finding a Healthy Balance in Your Ex-Relationship

BOUNCE BACKS ARE DANGEROUS:
FINDING A HEALTHY BALANCE IN YOUR EX-RELATIONSHIP

Article by Camille Ditele
Photo Credit: Michelle Kim
Magazine: Issue #18

Finding a Healthy Balance

In the best of all possible cases you will be able to go through life with a friendly, comfortable relationship with your ex-spouse. Coming to a truce and being polite and considerate of each other helps you raise your children and deal with extended family issues.

In the worst of possible cases, however, you mistake friendship and comfort for something more and keep falling back in love with him. He finds new girlfriends and then comes back to you broken-hearted in between his new relationships. You console him, shore up his ego, and heaven help you, sleep with him. He leaves again, but some part of you feels like at least you still have some part of him. You delude yourself into thinking that you are still really the special one in his life. And you break your heart and dig the rut deeper, time and time again.

Your complacency with settling for the crumbs in the relationship instead of understanding you deserve someone who gives you mutual love and respect will keep you in doormat mode the rest of your life. So how can you break your addiction to him?

You need a 10-step program and the resolve to take it one day at a time, the same as you would any other serious addiction. In this case, the steps involve reviving your resolve to build a new life for yourself.

Make yourself do things to meet new people. Take classes, get involved in your church, or join a special interest group. Volunteer or take a board position on a charity. All of those activities will position you to more likely meet someone who can give you a real relationship. Do new things to break your routine. If you always sleep late, start getting up early and going to the neighborhood gym. If you always stay home on Sundays, plan some adventures for yourself and a friend next week and leave the house.

Record in your journal how you really feel when you get intimate with your ex and then he leaves again. Recount the reasons why your marriage broke up and ask yourselves if any of those circumstances have really changed. Think about where you will be in 10 years if you keep on the path you are going. If that’s not where you want to be, only you can shift gears and get going in a healthier direction.

How to Release and Reverse Negative Beliefs

HOW TO RELEASE AND REVERSE NEGATIVE BELIEFS

Article by Priscilla Wainwright
Photo Credit: Michelle Kim
Magazine: Issue #18

Release and Reverse Negative Beliefs

Whatever is holding you back and causing you emotional pain is rooted in your beliefs that you have absorbed over the years. These are fiction, the creation of your false self, but you have accepted them as reality. Therefore, you probably haven’t seriously questioned them.

Now is the time to throw them out and create a new, powerful, positive belief system. We all hold beliefs about 3 major categories: Self, Others, and Life/World/Universe.

Take 3 sheets of paper. Label one “Self”, the next “Others”, and the third “Life”. Write down on the appropriate paper all the negative beliefs you can think of that you hold about each of these categories.

When that is completed, take 3 new sheets of paper. Label each as above. For each negative belief, write on the new paper a positive opposite, corrective belief. You don’t have to believe these positive beliefs right now. Just do it. If you need help, review the Universal Truth articles on www.InnerTigress.com and the positive counter-statements on the Symptom List on the home page.

Example:

Negative:

I am worthless.
People are evil & conniving.
The world doesn’t care about me or my ideas.

Positive:

I am of priceless value & worth.
People are basically good at heart & generous.
The world is waiting for what I have to offer.

Once you have created your list of positive beliefs, start every day by reading your list. Then show up and start acting every day inside those new beliefs. Act as if they are true. Stick with this and soon you’ll see new results and the new beliefs will take hold. Spend a few moments each morning visualizing yourself as glorious and powerful, acting from these new beliefs.

Shred, burn, or otherwise destroy the lists of negative beliefs. You might wish to create a little ritual around their destruction.

Perhaps light a candle, dress up in your prettiest outfit, go outside in nature, or in a safe place at home and burn the lists. At the same time, tell yourself that you are a new creation, glorious and powerful beyond measure. Maybe say a prayer, have a celebratory meal and/or drink. Maybe have a close girlfriend participate with you. Whatever. Have fun, Tigress.

Rise Up and ROAR! “The old has passed away. All has become new.” – St. Paul

Sovereignty as Philosophy – Knowing then Owning Your Powers

Sovereignty as Philosophy

SOVEREIGNTY AS PHILOSOPHY - KNOWING THEN OWNING YOUR POWERS

Article by Marcela Liliana Veron
Photo Credit: Michelle Kim
Magazine: Issue #18

Through the years of interacting with many women, while honing my craft as an intuitive, healer and mentor in their many facets, I learned more about their true yearning underneath their wants and needs. I tuned into their soul’s need for reverence through sovereignty. 

Through this integral journey, I came to really understand the power of claiming sovereignty as a way of being in one’s body and presence... and as a way of experiencing the feminine soul in its fullness and sacredness.  Furthermore, I realized the profound importance of being witness as sovereign.

Sovereignty became my passion. In a spiritual sense it infused my purpose with its all encompassing and magnetic force. Sovereignty became my philosophy. 

Philosophy, in my book, is the attitude and awareness that you embody and embrace in your actions, thoughts, words, communications and choices. It is the multi-faceted expression of your values that you embrace and live by, both static and ever evolving by nature. The word is derived from the Greek word ‘philosophia’ or love of wisdom.  

The root within itself is based on Sophia, the Goddess of World Wisdom. More so, Sophia exemplifies the power of self-knowledge and wisdom of knowing your deeper whole self through your journey or spiritual evolution as you continue to interact and engage in the world. She archetypally instills the importance of owning your value in relation to the world at large. Goddess Sophia reflects your inherent wisdom and majestic nature.

Allow your state of beingness to embrace the immanence of embodying sovereignty in your everyday experiences.

See what magic comes about from living from the awareness of your intrinsic value.  True beauty exudes in knowing in the very essence of your being the virtue of owning your Sovereignty.  Make Sovereignty your Philosophy.