Want to Build an Empire? Better Make Time for Your Girls

WANT TO BUILD AN EMPIRE? BETTER MAKE TIME FOR YOUR GIRLS

Article by Nikka Karli Salifu
Photo Credit: Rose Jane
Magazine: Issue #19

Want To Build An Empire? Better Make Time For Your Girls.

Want To Build An Empire? Better Make Time For Your Girls.

So, you want to make a difference in the world?  Help raise the vibration of the planet?  Well, Gorgeous, one of the most important things you should be doing is cultivating some QT (quality time) with your besties.  And, let's get real, this is also probably the one thing you are neglecting because you are out there trying to change the world.  I mean, your friends will always be there and you've got some serious world dominating to do, right?  Mmmmmm, yes and no.

Yes, your friends will always be there.  But, only if you continue nourishing your friendships.  Just because things were easy peasy when acid wash jeans were all the rage (the 1st time), doesn't mean that your relationships will continue to grow if you neglect them. 

The bonds that you maintain on your rise to building your empire will not only help keep you sane, they are necessary ingredients in ANY recipe for success.

I don't know about you, but my close Soul Sisters can often be my muses when I am descended upon by hideous, creativity-sucking, time-stealing banshees (AKA the always-dreaded writer's block).  Even when I think I couldn't possibly make time to talk with my girls (IE: when I'm up to my eyeballs in deadlines for work or behind on my writing), I'm always wrong.  When I think I don't have time, it's generally because I've started procrastinating or I'm feeling stuck in my path.  This then leads to feelings of not having time for anything “fun”.  As in, if it's not helping me to build my business RIGHT NOW, then I just can't do it.  Ever feel like that?  As if the moment you take your eyes off of changing the world (even for one tiny little nanosecond) that everything will fall apart and you'll be back at step one?

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Well, good news fellow Paradigm Shifters.  By nourishing the bonds of friendship, you are taking care of YOU. 

And you can't run the world if you're neglecting the amazing Shero that is you.  So, allow time with your girlfriends to be a part of your weekly routine.  When you skip this QT you're not only hurting yourself, you're also doing an injustice to all of the people you are meant to help.  By making time for your friends, you're making time for yourself.  You are fully showing up for yourself which, in turn, allows you to fully show up in the world. 

And, come on.  What fun is world domination if you don't have your BFFs along for the ride?

ABOUT ANGEL

Angel Quintana

Angel Quintana is the founder of Holistic Fashionista, an alchemical herbalist and mystery school teacher based in Saint Petersburg, Florida. She's incredibly passionate about the alchemical process known as The Great Work and helping others evolve "the archetypes" found in their inner world, so they can confidently answer the questions: WHO AM I and WHY AM I HERE. Learn more about Angel's work at www.theoccultchateau.com


DISCLAIMER

The information on this website is presented for educational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for the diagnosis, treatment, or advice of a qualified, licensed medical professional. The facts presented are offered as information only, not medical advice, and in no way should anyone infer that we are practicing medicine. Seek the advice of a medical professional for proper application of this material to any specific situation.

Why You Should Stop Giving Away Your Goodies for Free

WHY YOU SHOULD STOP GIVING AWAY YOUR GOODIES FOR FREE

Why You Should Stop Giving Away Your Goodies For Free

Why You Should Stop Giving Away Your Goodies For Free

Article by Nikka Karli Salifu
Photo Credit: Pinterest

Are you a Goodie-Giver? Someone with an amazing gift, but you can't seem to keep it in your pants when it comes to giving away your services for free?
 

I'd reckon that you, Sweet Thang, are so awesome that everyone comes to you for help. With their relationships. Their nutrition/fitness. Their branding. And you, Sugar Lips, haven't exactly mastered the art of saying “no”. Right? You spend the time that you SHOULD be dedicating to launching your mission on not-so-stellar interactions. Things like writing meal plans for everyone you know, helping your sister's girlfriend's mom attract her ideal clientele, or doing 2-hour life coaching sessions for your old boyfriend who just really needs your advice with his wife/job/future book. Oh, and you’re doing all of this FOR FREE!  Ringing any bells, Sassy Pants?

It's high time you start charging top dollar. If you want your business to go from Side Job to Soul Gig, you have to start respecting your gifts rather than giving them up to every Tom, Dick, and Harry who says they need your help. Of course they need your help!  You've got SKILLS, baby! However, that does NOT mean you should be laying out the proverbial trough for everyone to come chow down on your talent. You’ll only be left with a temporary high of having helped someone (ahhh, this is why I do what I do). Wait. Don't get too happy because this is eventually followed by resentment that they had the nerve to send you another 3am text asking for your advice regarding their oh-so-immediate concern about the fact that their uterus is going to be rocket-launched from their body if you don't help them find a man like yesterday (this is also known as a Business Bootie Call and unfortunately comes without the added benefit of you actually getting any). Finally, you reach full-blown resentment and astonishment at why you're unable to build your dope-a$$ business. Yuck.

So, what's a Dame to do? Why, learn to practice her Sacred No, of course! The next time someone asks you for free help to fix their life, ask yourself if makes your soul happy. Is it going to help you focus on sharing your purpose with people who really need your help? Or is it only helping you to continue playing small? Ouch!  By giving it up (errr, away) for free, you are only succeeding in hiding your true talents from the people who are desperately seeking YOU. Would you rather learn to use that Sacred No or continue giving every Joe in town a free ride on your Talent Train?

Remember, Fancy Face, playing in the Big Leagues means knowing (and charging) your worth.

ABOUT ANGEL

Angel Quintana

Angel Quintana is the founder of Holistic Fashionista, an alchemical herbalist and mystery school teacher based in Saint Petersburg, Florida. She's incredibly passionate about the alchemical process known as The Great Work and helping others evolve "the archetypes" found in their inner world, so they can confidently answer the questions: WHO AM I and WHY AM I HERE. Learn more about Angel's work at www.theoccultchateau.com


DISCLAIMER

The information on this website is presented for educational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for the diagnosis, treatment, or advice of a qualified, licensed medical professional. The facts presented are offered as information only, not medical advice, and in no way should anyone infer that we are practicing medicine. Seek the advice of a medical professional for proper application of this material to any specific situation.

What to Do When You Get B*tch-Slapped By The Universe

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU GET B*TCH-SLAPPED BY THE UNIVERSE

What to Do When You Get B*tch-Slapped By The Universe

What to Do When You Get B*tch-Slapped By The Universe

Article by Nikka Karli Salifu  
Photo Credit: Dasha & Mari

Ever had that feeling?  Where you think you’re on your path.  Clarity and confidence are yours.  You’re FINALLY turning the dreams that have been burning a hole in YOUR SOUL into reality.  And then BOOM.  Out of the vast expanse of infinite possibilities and divine opportunities comes a little thing we call Nothing.  Nada.  I’m talking straight-up radio silence on the vibrational airwaves.  

Those dreams? (Uh, what dreams?) That clarity? (Wait.  Really?  Is that what I’m supposed to do with my life?) The confidence? (I’ll never be able to do this. I’m a total fraud.) Ever been there?  Well congratulations, Gorgeous. You’ve just been b*tch-slapped by The Universe…  Welcome to the club.  

The Universe is well-meaning.  It wants you to live in alignment with your purpose.  You’ve hit this radio-silence for a reason.  Not because you suck.  Not because The Universe is out to get you. And NOT because you are unworthy of success and abundance.  It’s because you ARE worthy.  This happened so you can begin making a conscious shift towards true fulfillment.

So, what’s an aspiring thought leader-healer-teacher to do?  In order to get back on your path -and STAY on it- you will need to begin employing a strategy called “5 Petals of The Rising Lotus”.  (OK, yes.  I totally just made that up, but stick with me anyways.)  Since I know you are probably pretty busy and need to get back to changing the world, here’s the Cliff Notes version:

Clear Your Road Blocks

Here is where your energy healing practice comes into play.  A stagnant period in your creativity probably means you have old patterns and blocks in your way.  

Call Yourself on Your Crap

Begin a meditation practice.  Get on your yoga mat.  Sit with yourself.  Remember, you can’t hide from your stuff forever (well, not if you want to be a creative visionary who impacts the world anyways).

Cultivate an Abundant Mindset

Make a list of all the ways in which you have abundance in this moment.  Begin to own your worth and value your gifts.  This is where true abundance, creativity, and success begin.

Create a Pleasure Ritual

Find time to enjoy your life.  Draft your book proposal while spending time in nature.  Take luxurious baths.  Without enough daily pleasure, you’ll turn to past addictions to compensate (attention seeking, drugs, food, etc.).

Construct Your Creative Cove

Ooooh, I so love this!  Head over to Pinterest and start a board for your sacred oasis of calm.  A space to create and nourish your dreams.

Feeling inspired to get back in the game?  Fab!  Now, go take some inspired action on your dreams and begin making them your reality.

ABOUT ANGEL

Angel Quintana

Angel Quintana is the founder of Holistic Fashionista, an alchemical herbalist and mystery school teacher based in Saint Petersburg, Florida. She's incredibly passionate about the alchemical process known as The Great Work and helping others evolve "the archetypes" found in their inner world, so they can confidently answer the questions: WHO AM I and WHY AM I HERE. Learn more about Angel's work at www.theoccultchateau.com


DISCLAIMER

The information on this website is presented for educational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for the diagnosis, treatment, or advice of a qualified, licensed medical professional. The facts presented are offered as information only, not medical advice, and in no way should anyone infer that we are practicing medicine. Seek the advice of a medical professional for proper application of this material to any specific situation.

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