SACRED SELF CARE REDEFINED: IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT MASSAGES AND MANICURES

We Cannot Pour From An Empty Cup

As women, we often grow up with a message of martyrdom. This societal expectations of self-sacrifice and putting everyone else’s needs before our own. This false perception of what it means to be seen a “good” woman leaves so many of us with feelings of “never good enough”.

Women are often taught from a very young age to be selfless, and it is time for us to flip that script. It is time for women to find their voices, step into their power and become SELFISH!

Our daughters deserve to be taught that it is absolutely necessary to prioritize their needs, to put themselves first, to set boundaries, not to feel ashamed or guilty to ask for and receive support.

Self Care Is Not All About Massages And Manicures

So, what actually is true sacred self care? There is a belief that self-care activities either take a long time, cost a lot of money, and/or require you to leave your house - all of which may seem unrealistic and unattainable for many women in current times.

Sacred self care is a combination of meeting your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs.

It is about utilizing pockets of time throughout the day to stop and breathe and connect with your higher self
Waking up half an hour before the rest of the household and making a cup of tea to drink alone in silence
To meditate for 10 minutes in the morning and write out a gratitude list
To drive around in your car by yourself listening to your favorite song, podcast or audiobook
To put away your phone and unplug from heavy energy of social media and the news
To go for a walk or a run, wind down with nighttime yoga session or sweat it out to some cardio and strength training
To nurture your body with whole and nutritious foods and hydrate with water
To clean and purge things from your house that have no use for you anymore and no longer bring you joy
To journal about your feelings, to cry all the tears , to give yourself permission to feel it all!

Beware Of The Messages You Send Yourself

Your thoughts aren’t always the absolute truth – your perception of reality is just that, a perception!

How many times have you thought to yourself “It would be so nice to talk to someone about what I’m going through, my thoughts, my feelings”.

And then that little voice creeps in telling you things like “You should be able to handle this on your own” or “Nobody is going to be able to understand me” or “I can’t spend money on this”.

And you crawl back into your hole, keep putting on a mask, keep pretending like everything is fine.

But you know that it’s not! It’s not fine!

And you deserve to have someone listen to you.

You deserve to have someone validate your thoughts and feelings.

You deserve to have someone guide you to find the answers.

Ask for help and the Universe will find a way to deliver.

Embrace Your Authenticity

We are spiritual beings having a human experience. Every time you find yourself in the sea of self-criticism and self-judgment, is a good time to remind yourself that you are exactly what and where your soul chose to be in this life time.