How to Practice More Self-Love (Part 2)

HOW TO PRACTICE MORE SELF-LOVE (PART 2)

Written By: Tracy Elizabeth Roman
Photo Credit: Dasha + Mari

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Self-Love Nugget # 4

Let go. Look around at your physical space. Where you live has a vibration/energy all its own and if you are doing everything right but seeing no improvement in your thoughts and actions, take a look around. What are you holding onto? Old clothing? Unused/unflattering makeup or skincare? Broken furnishings? Toxic neighbors? When we don't care for ourselves we tolerate situations and people that are detrimental to our wellbeing. Unsupportive relationships, clutter, old makeup and clothing that we will never use but we keep because we "spent money on it". Toss that shit. It is contributing to your lower level energy. Spend 10 minutes daily purging your physical space of what you don't need and haven't used in the past 12 months. You will be amazed at how quickly your energy and mood lifts.

Self-Love Nugget # 5

Re-examine your relationships. This is a tough one because we love our friends and family and, let's be real here, we are afraid of being judged by them as stuck up or snooty. This is your life and the one thing I can pinky swear is true, people will think what they think about you REGARDLESS of what you do. So, choose whom you associate with. If your parents or siblings are negative, limit your exposure to them until you can maintain your higher level of awareness (and composure) in their presence.

And when you are tempted to backslide because you feel misunderstood by your family, remember that they are on their own individual journey and may choose to stay unconscious, reactive or unaware. You cannot take on their spiritual growth for them, so you must be willing to move forward on your own path rather than stay miserable in a relationship that does not support your personal evolution. I'm not saying this is easy.

I, too, still have difficulty in this area. Just know that there is absolutely no need for you to pick up sticks and move to another state—be gentle with yourself, keep putting one foot in front of the other and know that you'll get where you need to go at the right time.

I suggest that you read this article at least 3x. I find that when I re-read or re-listen to something multiple times, I pick up even more bits of wisdom that I had previously missed.

Our awakening as individuals, and collectively, is not an accident. It is a Divine plan and one which your soul agreed to when it [re]incarnated as you. Lack of self-love is but one way in which we keep ourselves from reaching our full potential out of fear. There is a plan for your life. But, in order to experience it, you must loosen your grip on what is, trust in your soul's guidance and operate from faith—not blind obedience—but a solid understanding of who you are as a soul and the evolutionary journey that is yours and yours alone.

Believe in yourself, believe in the dream in your heart and be open to the promptings of your soul.

ABOUT ANGEL

Angel Quintana

Angel Quintana is the founder of Holistic Fashionista, an alchemical herbalist and mystery school teacher based in Saint Petersburg, Florida. She's incredibly passionate about the alchemical process known as The Great Work and helping others evolve "the archetypes" found in their inner world, so they can confidently answer the questions: WHO AM I and WHY AM I HERE. Learn more about Angel's work at www.theoccultchateau.com


DISCLAIMER

The information on this website is presented for educational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for the diagnosis, treatment, or advice of a qualified, licensed medical professional. The facts presented are offered as information only, not medical advice, and in no way should anyone infer that we are practicing medicine. Seek the advice of a medical professional for proper application of this material to any specific situation.

How to Practice More Self-Love (Part 1)

How to Practice More Self-Love (Part 1)

How to Practice More Self-Love (Part 1)

HOW TO PRACTICE MORE SELF-LOVE (Part 1)

Written By: Tracy Elizabeth Roman

You can't help but notice that self-love is trending. Everyone wants to know if it is the culprit behind their problems, what the heck is self-love anyway and why should they care.

Loving or valuing ourselves is a delineator between those who have happy, meaningful lives and those that don't. Lack of self-love plays out in every area of our lives. It determines whether we get the job, promotion or raise. Whether we get to date the guy we really want or *Mr. Eh, he'll do for now.* Whether we're jazzed when we wake up in the mornings or we hit snooze 7x before reluctantly crawling out of bed. Most importantly, it determines whether we give ourselves the same care and compassion that we would give to someone we love dearly.

In short, not loving ourselves sends a message out into the Universe that we are not deserving of everything we want for ourselves, and that's a difficult realization to accept.

What can we do to start bringing in all that we desire to turn our lackluster life into one that lights us up like a 4th of July celebration? First, you must recognize that Tinkerbell is not going to wave a magic wand over your life and materialize all of your dreams in an instant. Action is a required component of this equation and there's no getting around that. Your soul incarnated as you to experience life, and that experience comes from doing, not sitting around wishing and hoping.

Below, I share a few nuggets of wisdom to help you start creating the life of your dreams:

Self-Love Nugget # 1
What are you avoiding? Self-love begins with self-knowledge. What emotions have you been unwilling to feel? What situations are you ignoring instead of dealing with them? This is key. Because you are creating your life from the level of consciousness (or awareness) that these suppressed emotions resonate at. My suggestion: get a massage. I find that when I go to the spa and have a restorative massage, I am more willing to look deeply within myself at the areas of my life I have been avoiding. Massage relaxes your muscles and your mind and allows your soul to reveal things to you that you would otherwise never know. Bring a journal with your and after your massage, sit in the spa's relaxation room and pour it out on paper.

Self-Love Nugget # 2
Daily rituals are not an indulgence; they are a requirement. We are bombarded by information at an alarming rate. You must find time, daily and preferably first thing in the morning, to spend time alone with your soul. Our soul speaks to us in the quiet moments, when the din of our thoughts is lowered. Try out different methodologies to see what works best for you: chanting, meditation, journaling, tapping, candle gazing, prayer, the list is endless. Find what suits you and then do it. Every day.

Self-Love Nugget # 3
Pay attention to what you are thinking. We habitually think the same self-defeating thoughts day in and day out. Become an observer. If you are reactive and negative, stop, inhale deeply, exhale and relax your shoulders. Then ask within: what am I thinking to cause this reaction? Allow the thoughts to flit across the blank canvas of your mind and observe them with curiosity rather than judgment, and a sincere desire to know yourself better. This is when awareness, aha's and self-understanding show up.

More Self-Love Nuggets await in Part 2 of How to Practice More Self-Love?

ABOUT ANGEL

Angel Quintana

Angel Quintana is the founder of Holistic Fashionista, an alchemical herbalist and mystery school teacher based in Saint Petersburg, Florida. She's incredibly passionate about the alchemical process known as The Great Work and helping others evolve "the archetypes" found in their inner world, so they can confidently answer the questions: WHO AM I and WHY AM I HERE. Learn more about Angel's work at www.theoccultchateau.com


DISCLAIMER

The information on this website is presented for educational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for the diagnosis, treatment, or advice of a qualified, licensed medical professional. The facts presented are offered as information only, not medical advice, and in no way should anyone infer that we are practicing medicine. Seek the advice of a medical professional for proper application of this material to any specific situation.